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My mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer for the third time. This time it's stage IV and untreatable and they gave her a year to live. What should I expect for death? Slowly in a hospital bed or dying in her sleep?

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  • Karen G Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2A Patient
    I was just diagnosed Stage 4 this year it spread to liver and lymph nodes. My friend had it in the liver 5 years ago and is still going strong. I definitely recommend getting another Doctors opinion. Also find out if the mets are ER PR and the Her2 status. There are different treatment options out there.
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    • sharon s Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Sorry Karen. I hope they can manage its growth for as long as you want. Best

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  • Sharon Danielson Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2007
    My phylosophy has always been one doesn't "plan to die" one "plans to live." Yes, things may sound a little grim and having a doctor tell your mom she will be dead in a year puts a completely negative spin on it. We are all going to die but how does any mortal know when one's time is up. I think we can be "talked" into giving up but hope can have the opposite effect. I am accused of being too positive, too glass half full but what are we left with? Take a day at a time. Mom needs to do the stuff she loves, and have something to look forward to. My days are so packed with stuff and plans, I don't have time to worry about cancer coming back. I am concerned I could be run over by a stampeding herd of ponies but we are all here for reasons. Don't let your Mom be talked into dying before her real time. Take care, Sharon
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    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Doctors Do not know when people are going to die I'm in stage iv 4also I'm still here 6years later
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    • sharon s Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thank you for that time line. Bless you and your life.

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  • André Roberts Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 1 Patient
    I'm sorry to hear of your mothers diagnosis, but as the others have said, lots of people live a very long, enjoyable life with stage 4. Live each day to the fullest. Prayers to you.
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  • Betti A Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2013
    Noone can say how she will die except God and who is to say it is her time.
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  • Mandana K. Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    During my chemotherapy I knew a woman with stage 4 ,She is still alive and fortunately ok.think positive.Our life is in God hands
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  • Mabel Dominguez Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Take your mother to another doctor there are other opinions, no one knows when the time cones except The Lord. So maybe it's time to see someone else. There are clinical trials she might be able to take. God bless keep us posted.
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