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interested in hearing how other stage 4 deal with those bad emotional days

Alice Eisele Profile
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Survivor since 2009 about 7 years
 
  • Sharon Danielson Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2007
    Alice, SO GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU!!! Colleen Ivy Leahan was asking about you a couple of days ago. Hopefully, she will check in soon. I wish I had a magical answer for you. There are days when you have a dark cloud over your head. Emotions are transient, they come, they go, things never remain the same. If that cloud, does not leave, it is time to get some help from your doctor. You might always think about talking to a counselor. My oncologist had one in the big group he shared offices with. She was wonderful and really specialized in women with breast cancer. Sometimes, you get stuck with thought crammed in your head. Many times, your friends just don't understand breast cancer plus it freaks them out. You can also check with your oncologists office or the American Cancer Society to see if you can find a Women With Breast Cancer group in your area. It helps to really talk to others face to face who really DO know the path you are on. I always rely on my faith. When things get really bad, I pack it all up and hand it over to God. I figure He has the big shoulders, and can carry my burden, easily. It truly gives me a big sense of comfort. I am a terrible church-goer but have a deep love and faith in God. Hang in there darlin' You just keep fighting. Take care and God's blessings to you, Sharon
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    • Alice Eisele Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2009

      Thanks for the encouragement, Sharon. I have an appointment to speak to a councilor on Friday. Ive been in a funk this weekend, partly because everyone in my family had their things to do, so I was home alone, and also I broke out in hives. ...

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      Thanks for the encouragement, Sharon. I have an appointment to speak to a councilor on Friday. Ive been in a funk this weekend, partly because everyone in my family had their things to do, so I was home alone, and also I broke out in hives. That coupled with my limited mobility from the healing femur set me in a bad mood.
      I do have strong faith in the power of prayer and what God can do. I know that with his help ill get through this too.
      just wanted to hear. How other find their way through these cloudy mood days.
      All things considered, I'm really doing well. I go for my second treatment of chemo tomorrow. Now. If I can just find my happy place..........

      about 7 years Flag
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    anonymous
    Stage 1 Patient
    Pray, "I shall not die, but live and declare the works of the Lord. Psalm 118:17
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  • martha phollips Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Well Alice I have had stage Iv going on two years now The Lord has kept me going why I think because I raise my grand kids and they need me ages 11 6 and 4 my cancer is in my bones I sometimes feel sorry for myself because I'm probably not going to live long enough to see them grown and that makes me sad my family can't seem to function without me which is sad so I take my zometa treatments falsodex shots and I keep on trucking with my Lord Jesus I'm going to be all right no matter what is in store getting ready to go on vacation with a friend no men lol God bless you people ask me how are you I tell them I'm still above ground ill pray for you
    about 7 years Flag
    • nancy  wilcox Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Martha how old are you ??

      about 7 years Flag
    • martha phollips Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      56 going on 30

      about 7 years Flag
    • Alice Eisele Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2009

      You go Martha! Big hugs.

      about 7 years Flag
  • jacqueline ortega Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 4 Patient
    I'm 33 and stage 4. I have my dark days when I think of the possibility of me not having the chance to have children and watch them grow up. But I pull myself out of that darkness because I am a fighter. I'm fighting for NED. I believe in my body. I'm doing everything in my power through diet, Chinese herbs, meditation, laughter, love to get there. I also think about how nobody knows how long they have. I think about the poor around the world who are suffering, woman who are being tortured and killed. Being in a warm home with food and family and cancer isn't the worst thing. Sending you a hug xo
    about 7 years Flag
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      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      You are so right Jacqueline. I try to think the same way and I've change my diet. True none of us knows how long we have on earth. Those of us who have experienced cancer realize that. Jayme

      about 7 years Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 1998
    Alice, I don't have stage 4 bc but I have had bc twice . The most difficult event in my life was when my son was in a car accident, they told us everyday for 2 weeks he was going to die he had a brain injury and was in a coma for two months he eventually woke and recovered some what he is paralyzed and has speech and cognitive issues. The emotional stress was unbearable at times if I didn't have my faith in The Lord Jesus I never would have been able to get out of bed. The emotional pain was so bad that I fainted one day outside of my sons room in the hospital. I don't know how you feel about taking something for stress and anxieties but I st
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • Alice Eisele Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2009
    Thanks everybody. I went with my daughter this morning and got a sassy hair cut. That made me feel better. Then we went to the cancer vented for my treatment. I had a reaction so we had to stop treatment, regroup, and try something else. I'll be doing at least 3 cycles of gemzar (once a week for three weeks then 2 weeks off). Not feeling too Bsd tonight. Just a bit of nausia. Its doable. Big hugs from Alice
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 1998
    Alice I am trying to tell you mi
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  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 1998
    Sorry Alice I want you to know miracles happen and modern medicine is wonderful keep on fighting
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  • sally park Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I used to see a councillor for support and get healing or a treatment such as a pedicure just to feel pampered and take my mind elsewhere. The landmark forum's education enabled me to get complete with my cancer!
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • sally park Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I used to see a councillor for support and get healing or a treatment such as a pedicure just to feel pampered and take my mind elsewhere. The landmark forum's education enabled me to get complete with my cancer!
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • Eli Timms Profile
    anonymous
    Patient
    I am 31 years old and I have a blog about these issues called "laughter and love in chile." Look it up as it talks a lot about how I have dealt with these issues and also about my treatments. I hope everything is going well
    over 6 years Comment Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    Hi Alice, So good to hear from you! Sorry your having on of those yucky days of emotion but just know it will pass. In the mean time all your sisters here have your back. We are covering you in prayer and asking for Gods healing for you! Lots and lots of hugs!
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • Rita Jo Hayes Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2009
    Alice, i am stage IV with many mets to both lungs and also have those bad days, get sad,mad and all, but then I think of how lucky I am compared to others. The only part of having ca is we now know what is important in life and cherish appreciate it even more. So many people go through life sweating the small unimportant stuff missing the whole point in living. You deserve the right to have a bad day, but don't let it take hold and refresh your self of how lucky you really are for all the blessings you do have in your life. I wish i could post this pic i have for you of two dogs running with their ears flpping, tongues hanging out and the caption says "Live Like Someone Left The Gate Open" . Thinking of you and prayers for strength being sent your way. Rita Jo
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • julie s Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2A Patient
    Alice, so glad to hear from you. I'm sorry you've had a rough weekend... Tomorrow is another day! Some days are better than others... I hope tomorrow is a better day!
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 1998
    I took Effexor when I had bc the 1 st time and Wellbutrin when my son was injured. I prayed every day for God to help us all. When my son finally came home I tried to live life as normal has possible. Talking with counselors helped and talking with my priest helped. Try to do things you like to keep your mind distracted From the stress. Watch funny movies, spend time with your family and friends. I am so sorry you have to go through this but in God all things are possible never give up He is always with you and loves you have peace knowing that God will help you if you ask. Sometimes reading the Psalms helps me. I also found peace knowing that others were praying for us as well. I will keep you in my prayers
    about 7 years Comment Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 1998
    Alice I am trying to tell you mi
    about 7 years Comment Flag

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