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How soon after mastectomy is it ok to have intimate relations with your spouse?

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anonymous

Survivor since 2012 over 7 years
 
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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    As soon as you and your special other are comfortable . My husband was afraid I'd break. He got over it. :-)
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  • Sarah Hailes Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2A Patient
    Just wait till your incisions close! This is a tough subject since I'm getting chemo I'm not at all "in the mood"...
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Elaine Mills Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2B Patient
    I can't tell if you are the patient or the spouse, but I am a patient. I know that for us, "intimate" became something different than sex. He waited for me to initiate. Realize that there are so many emotions to deal with having had your breasts removed. Positioning, energy, everything about our first, second ... 30th time is different than before. I am not in the mood in the same way. My heart is, but my body could care less most of the time. I want to let him know I love him and I feel allowing him some normalcy of a sexual release seems important for him, so I do what I can.
    over 7 years Comment Flag
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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    Thank you for all of your honest answers & advice! My husband & I have always enjoyed our intimacy. I had a tram abdominal surgery with my immediate reconstruction about 1 month ago. I'm still a bit sore & my reconstructive breast is still healing. My husband says he loves my body any way it looks. He's been wonderful through all of this!
    over 7 years Flag
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      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      Breast cancer.org has info on its site for everyday issues under sex and intimacy. It had some helpful hints in it. :-D

      over 7 years Flag
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    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    My husband was also afraid that I would break. But as soon as you think it won't cause you any discomfort. You might have to play around with positions to find the most comfortable one, ENJOY!
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Carmen Rodriguez Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I just had my right breast removed. It has been about a month now.. How soon can I be intimate with my husband
    about 4 years Comment Flag
  • Jk Joyce Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    I have never asked. I think it would be up to each individual as to how you feel. I think it will help to have that closeness for your own peace of mind.
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Rita Jo Hayes Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2009
    As soon as you both feel comfortable. My Ono doc always encouraged me to get back to a "norm" as soon as possible.
    over 7 years Comment Flag

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